tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13684790.post7555516470158279598..comments2023-11-05T05:28:34.444-07:00Comments on Voice of Reason: The Mormon Wedding PostNemesishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00110470182822628791noreply@blogger.comBlogger59125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13684790.post-42632838144762784712017-02-22T02:59:08.429-07:002017-02-22T02:59:08.429-07:00Couple of days back has attended my friend’s weddi...Couple of days back has attended my friend’s wedding at one popular <a href="https://eventup.com/venues/new-york-ny/" rel="nofollow">NYC wedding venues</a>. It was really fantastic with all beautiful floral décor and other arrangements. A special thanks was given to her sister who made it all happen.zerry hthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15390098326025307659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13684790.post-24653050894265470772012-06-30T09:31:08.399-06:002012-06-30T09:31:08.399-06:00@Molly
Molly, I don't know if you will see th...@<a href="#c9043075091105384250" rel="nofollow">Molly</a><br /><br />Molly, I don't know if you will see this response, but I was not trying to criticize people for having ring ceremonies--as you point out, there are many situations in which that is the best way to include family members and friends who cannot attend the temple ceremony. They can be beautiful, sacred occasions. <br /><br />My snark is for those who ramp up the ring ceremony so much that it seems to become the "main event," and perhaps is not so much about including family members as it is about the bride getting to use all the ideas from MS Weddings that she couldn't use in the temple (plus photo documentation). I'm sorry if that didn't come across very well!Nemesishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00553415531355924860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13684790.post-90430750911053842502012-06-30T08:45:54.558-06:002012-06-30T08:45:54.558-06:00While I agree with most of these, I think you'...While I agree with most of these, I think you're being a bit judgmental about the ring ceremony. My grandfather will be flying from Frankfurt to Salt Lake for my wedding. He isn't a member, and I'm his only grandchild. Other people have similar situations. So why are you passing judgment on us for holding something that the church handbook of instructions allows in order to include our family?Mollynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13684790.post-15539898722268765952011-09-11T14:20:16.258-06:002011-09-11T14:20:16.258-06:00Sigh. My two pet peeves are the inclusion of regis...Sigh. My two pet peeves are the inclusion of registry information and the printed thank-you notes at the reception. Neither one are okay, at all! Weddings are expensive--get over it. There are some things you can't do without being tasteless. Remember that the pictures are the thing you will have forever, and get a good photographer. Rent a dress. Don't put anyone in anything immodest when you're getting married in the temple. Feed your friends if you want a mealtime reception.Cari Clarknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13684790.post-86718081010681325452011-08-24T23:20:59.745-06:002011-08-24T23:20:59.745-06:00What I love more than the actual post is the peopl...What I love more than the actual post is the people who don't understand the humor behind it. Like for real guys....Jessica Ellertsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16508917403285261861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13684790.post-4321650739832810352011-07-11T11:43:19.586-06:002011-07-11T11:43:19.586-06:00for most non-Mormons, the reception is a gift-grab...for most non-Mormons, the reception is a gift-grab (you were not invited to the wedding, but please come stand in a line for 2 hours to say congrats...PS don't forget to leave your gift and take a cookie on your way out!)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13684790.post-65746377357321284042011-06-26T20:56:05.687-06:002011-06-26T20:56:05.687-06:00so sad when hiding behind a computer screen gives ...so sad when hiding behind a computer screen gives people the guts to say such hateful things. i just found your blog today, and must say-- i find your SATIRE hysterical. i'm sorry you have to deal with such dense readers, but please, don't change a thing. <br /><br />and just because reading this post gave me a great sense of pride in my own wedding (just one year ago)... i must tell you-- i didn't do a single one of those things! no reception, no ring ceremony (and non of my family is LDS), no labor done by any family members, friends, or guests of any kind, no tacky registry notification, no bridesmaids, no garter toss, chocolate fountain, gum, receiving lines, etc, dinner didn't start until 7 p.m. and we were the last ones to leave.... well, you get the idea. oh, just to clarify, our budget was no greater than any of my friends' cultural hall receptions. <br /><br />i like to think i would've done you, fellow new blogger friend, proud. <br /><br />all best.morganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10782415255835227799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13684790.post-9250857987229707262010-10-25T10:59:48.247-06:002010-10-25T10:59:48.247-06:00"forget what they tell you in the temple"..."forget what they tell you in the temple" wow? Really? I'm disgusted by this post. Wear as many sleveless dresses as possible before you can't anymore??? Do you realize the sacred covenants you make in the temple??! Shame on you. And shame on endowed women of the church who take lightly and mock God and the sacred nature of a temple wedding.Brandon,Jenny and Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06812160341873488660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13684790.post-36740109894778869672009-07-28T15:48:46.495-06:002009-07-28T15:48:46.495-06:00have you ever planned a wedding, or are you just s...have you ever planned a wedding, or are you just single? because if you had you would understand that not everyone has a dream budget and some just DONT EVEN care, so thanks for exploiting all those that failed in meeting your needs because after all it was YOUR special day?!?!? wasnt it?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13684790.post-22898172277399474522009-05-11T13:31:00.000-06:002009-05-11T13:31:00.000-06:00I know this is a little late, but I just thought t...I know this is a little late, but I just thought this went along with the whole post. Someone mentioned having the tacky cakes that are fake except for the top tier. Well when my cousin got married her entire cake was fake...and she didn't even know!!!! So there they are, cutting into the cake, and they get stopped dead in their tracks, because they can't cut it. It is styrofoam! So they ended up having to take a piece off of one of the plates, and feed it to each other...wow! I will never forget that moment.Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03812454164482263155noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13684790.post-61844002032589530772009-05-05T11:55:00.000-06:002009-05-05T11:55:00.000-06:00Really??? grow up.Really??? grow up.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13684790.post-52303762092633607462009-02-16T23:16:00.000-07:002009-02-16T23:16:00.000-07:00Your best observation: be unique but make sure it'...Your best observation: be unique but make sure it's the "trendy unique" thing to be doing that year. Geeze! That one season, I was getting SO SICK of seeing temple brides get married and then add 10 different things IN RED (or some other perfect color for that season) to their dress: sash, shoes, jacket, etc.<BR/><BR/>And you totally forgot the whole music thing. You MUST have a DJ that plays Top 40 Hits! Forget the mood. I seriously went to a wedding where they played Eminem's "Slim Shady" at a reception in the cultural hall. Wow. It was epic.<BR/><BR/>And finally, the DECKED OUT getaway vehicle. Make sure it's nearly ruined with shaving cream and oreos and LOTS and LOTS of toilet paper. Include suggestive phrases and signs on all the windows. (Speaking of which, I also love when people you hardly know make seemingly innocent sex comments to you throughout the day. Leave it alone! We all know it's the first night.) However possible, you totally have to HUMILIATE the couple before/as they leave.Cormoranthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12372367193118807728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13684790.post-52824954291769472572009-02-12T13:56:00.000-07:002009-02-12T13:56:00.000-07:00I wore sneakers under my dress with blue cloud pri...I wore sneakers under my dress with blue cloud printed stockings, because no one would see it until the garter toss... which we tastefully did... no teeth! What do you think of that one? Seriously, you can be honest!!! I will still love you! Haha!<BR/><BR/>My reception rocked! I thought! My friend gave me DJ services for my reception, it was Christmas, so I decorated Christmassie! My mom wanted a line and I said no! We danced, we did all the traditional stuff but we did not wait until people had been sitting there 2-3 hours for a line to finish to get to them! 1/2 hour in we were cutting the cake. 10 min later first dance. 10 min later garter and boquet toss. Other than that people could go without feeling they missed anything, or they could stay and party... which most did! Apparently after we left people kareoked and danced forever!<BR/><BR/>But I did the whole "turn it over to my mom" thing. I told her not to use Gold in the decorations... which she still did because that is what my mom does... and she wanted a line which I nixed night of so I would not have to fight it and eventually give in. I wanted to just Elope to the Las Vegas temple... after getting permission...haha... in hind site I loved my reception and probably would have loved Eloping too! Either way... happy days!Audrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05340873364042352323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13684790.post-19069808222930704502009-02-11T19:45:00.000-07:002009-02-11T19:45:00.000-07:00I think that most of us have at least one thing th...I think that most of us have at least one thing that we thought was not a big deal at the time, but now we realize wasn't such a terriffic idea. <BR/>I used printed labels because NO ONE can read my handwriting. And I will take being a little tacky over having my invitations illegible or guilt-ing my sisters into doing it for me. Goodness knows I hated stamping envelopes for them.<BR/>That being said - flip flops are NEVER an allowable mistake. One can never think they are classy. Comfortable, yes; great for the beach, yes. But not for a wedding. Especially one where you are the bride. My sister was married on a beach and even she did not wear flip flops. They tastefully went barefoot on the wet sand until the reception where they wore other comfortable yet lovely footwear.jane doughhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12736984315534107349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13684790.post-7935633873195096172009-02-11T10:41:00.000-07:002009-02-11T10:41:00.000-07:00I too am against all tackiness, long and short sle...I too am against all tackiness, long and short sleeved alike. Thanks for the clarification, I didn't realize that the wedding parties had to be all Mormon as well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13684790.post-23562488477503956712009-02-11T09:55:00.000-07:002009-02-11T09:55:00.000-07:00Ouch, Polly. It's good that you knew who you were ...Ouch, Polly. It's good that you knew who you were dealing with (ie, people who have possibly never been to an RSVP reception before) and ordered enough food. And I love me a good salad spinner, but 6 does seem like a few too many.<BR/><BR/>Oooooh, you got to be part of that blessed experience too, Hass-Bark? I have not had the pleasure yet, but have plenty of friends who have--including one set who arrived as guests, offered to help out, and then were worked beyond all sense and reason for the next several hours. Grrrrr.<BR/><BR/>Eva, that is awesome. Who even knew it could be that simple?Nemesishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00110470182822628791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13684790.post-12277707717866631972009-02-10T23:25:00.000-07:002009-02-10T23:25:00.000-07:00Instead of registering, why not just tuck a list o...Instead of registering, why not just tuck a list of things you'd like to receive into the announcement and let your guests do their shopping wherever they choose?<BR/>My parents received such a list in an invitation when I was a little girl. It left quite an impression on me. I'll always wonder if that bride got the "large tupperware" she wished for.Evahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12494870909109745579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13684790.post-64040972187644160572009-02-10T15:52:00.000-07:002009-02-10T15:52:00.000-07:00Oh, Kip, I am SO glad you brought that up. What a ...Oh, Kip, I am SO glad you brought that up. What a horribly tacky experience that was.Señora H-Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08257562464089983641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13684790.post-22864614245602310672009-02-10T15:39:00.000-07:002009-02-10T15:39:00.000-07:00I now know I failed to have a mormon wedding. My p...I now know I failed to have a mormon wedding. My pet peeve- why are mormons incapable of RSVPing. We had a full buffet and band (that threw everyone for a loop- thank goodness for old non-mormon neighbors to start the dancing) and really needed RSVPs to plan food. About 1/3 of the people who showed up had RSPVed. I of course suspected this to be the case and had plenty of extra food. <BR/><BR/>Also if you use some ones labor pay them. And I can attest that people figure out where you are registered with out the tacky little cards. Other than the 2 gifts from the thrift store (a very large pink and gold vase and a set of pink shell srimp cocktail dishes- oh they were great!) all our gifts were from where we were registered. I take that back we also got 6 count them 6 salad spinners. Odd.Pollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05056362678982719071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13684790.post-2111429465335978882009-02-10T15:26:00.000-07:002009-02-10T15:26:00.000-07:00I meant to say "brides" there and not "bridges." H...I meant to say "brides" there and not "bridges." Hoo boy.Nemesishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00110470182822628791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13684790.post-29130696274644978742009-02-10T15:25:00.000-07:002009-02-10T15:25:00.000-07:00JackJen, yay! I'm glad the bags are bringing you g...JackJen, yay! I'm glad the bags are bringing you good karma.<BR/><BR/>Kip . . . (sigh) . . . yeah. That is a sad story.<BR/><BR/>Peanut, I'm sorry if I gave the impression that I judge ALL sleevelessness, because I certainly don't. The people I'm judging are the bridges who are getting married in the temple (and therefore have committed themselves to certain principles of modesty) who then turn around and suggest that their fellow Mormons (also theoretically committed) wear things that go against those principles. It's like they're saying, "Well, I can't do it anymore but I think it looks cute so YOU should do it." This particular judging has absolutely nothing to do with relative, friends, bridesmaids, etc. who do not hold the same religious standards of dress. (Unless, of course, they're wearing something that would be tacky at ANY wedding--like, say, a wedding gown when they're not the bride--in which case it's ON but for different reasons.)Nemesishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00110470182822628791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13684790.post-78992210759631003292009-02-10T14:42:00.000-07:002009-02-10T14:42:00.000-07:00I'd like to think that any bridesmaid wearing a sl...I'd like to think that any bridesmaid wearing a sleeveless dress obviously agreed to it at some point...so then what's the big deal? She could've said no if it was important to her. Not everybody is Mormon yknow, and I would never call your dress w/sleeves tacky.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13684790.post-11672532648907244192009-02-10T12:52:00.000-07:002009-02-10T12:52:00.000-07:00About the cake...yes, bigger is better, especially...About the cake...yes, bigger is better, especially when you can save some money by getting one of those "fake" cakes (cardboard covered in frosting with one layer of real cake for cutting purposes) and then you serve the guests Costco sheet cake. <BR/><BR/>No one will be the wiser.<BR/><BR/>(word verification: "promlike")Naomihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07428921288377508589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13684790.post-76129130278289408602009-02-10T12:06:00.000-07:002009-02-10T12:06:00.000-07:00Also, be sure to enlist a second group of fellow w...Also, be sure to enlist a second group of fellow ward members who are not close enough to be invited guests at the wedding but are apparently close enough to be recruited as slave labor waitstaff for 5 hours. Who says you can't have a fancy sit-down dinner without paying for it?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13684790.post-69144761474383102772009-02-10T11:44:00.000-07:002009-02-10T11:44:00.000-07:00HELLLOOOOOOOOOOO! Christmas lights? p.s. used the ...HELLLOOOOOOOOOOO! Christmas lights? <BR/><BR/>p.s. used the green mesh bags for produce yesterday and got so so so many compliments.Jen and Joe.https://www.blogger.com/profile/09541995724159371335noreply@blogger.com